I have found that to get a neutral gray I start with a palette black, mixing three colors on my palette that will create a black that is in harmony with my colors. Using my palette black I then mix out 4 grays – W2/N8, G4/N6, G6/N4 and B8/N2. From my four mixes I can then create all the grays I need.
As the 9 grays do not exist for purchase, I feel the best way for you to get them is to mix them yourself. Use the Williamsburg 4 grays as a starting point, which I sometimes do when I am short on time, adjust them to the neutrality that you are looking for, and go from there. This is time consuming but well work it. Mix enough that you can create tubes for future use.